MEN (3 letters that never fail to amused WOMEN)

Masih ingat dengan teman gw yang lagi broken heart (bukan broken heart sih gw rasa, tapi dia lagi dealing with rejection..ga pernah ya wan? wajah boleh mirip dewa Adonis..kelakuan? siga monyet..) Nah, karena gw keseringan membaca blog dia yang isinya adalah curahan hati dia tentang ke patah hati annya, gw jadi penasaran..emangnya gimana sih kalo cowo dealing with rejection? (open forum nih ya..yang mau curhat..mangga..) atau gimana sih para pria, yang kalo di depan cewe keliatannya seperti tough, deal dengan broken heart? Mari saya mulai hasil research saya yang tentunya akan dibumbui dengan banyak opini sendiri hasil pengalaman pribadi.

Secara (dan menurut) teori, ada 7 types of guys women can't resist:

1. The Romantic Guy

He believes in classic romance. He is constantly bringing her flowers and chocolate and lighting candles during dinner. He calls her often to let her know he is thinking about her and looks into her eyes and tells her how he feels.
Why he is so irresistible: A woman loves to feel appreciated, and the romantic guy makes this happen. He uses romantic gestures to show her he is thinking about her. As an added bonus, she feels free to reciprocate and act on her own romantic tendencies.

(Secara teori mungkin iya alias asa heeh..tapi kalo dibalikin ke diri gw sendiri (maksudnya buat gw gitu...) wuiidiihhhh eike sih tinta mau dah..jijik boo...seperti ga berpijak di bumi, namun hidup di dunia cinta..well well, buat gw, ini adalah tipe cowo yang bakal gw hindari setengah mati..I see this type of guy as a psychopath)

2. The Confident Guy

He is totally secure and sure of himself. He is assertive in public and gives off an aura of power and control (within reason of course, as the "cocky guy" is not on this list). In a relationship, he doesn't get jealous of other men; he doesn't feel threatened by his girlfriend's male friends or coworkers.
Why he is so irresistible: Women are attracted to confident men. Consider this: If you think you are great, she will probably be influenced to think the same. The confident man doesn't seek approval from women, and this makes them want him even more.

(yang ini sihh..tipe yang kayanya semua wanita paling suka..but, sama seperti karisma, you have to earn confidence and sometimes it just happened to be in your blood..jadi kaga bisa dipaksain gitu..tipe kepercayaan diri orang pun berbeda beda, pas Anda merasa percaya diri, bakal masih ada lagi orang yang lebih percaya diri dari Anda, sampe over confident dan akhirnya talks to much about himself (tipe cowo yang "all about me" ini engga banget ya, selain congkak, tipe yang begini agak memalukan juga kalau buat diajak hang out sama temen-temen, he sure will shut off everyboudy's mood) Okay, tapi kadang kan cewe kaga tau (kecuali yang berpengalaman abisss..) - apalagi pas kesan pertama - whether you fake the confidence or not..Namun, sejalan dengan berjalannya waktu, pasti ketauan deh yang palsu ama yang ga..So, para pria, kalau kalian belum mampu menjadi pria di level ini, do not try to fake it. Daripada image rusak seumur hidup (ingat bibir cewe itu mouth to mouth communication yang paling efektif), mending ga usah..)

3. The Artistic Guy

The artistic guy is spontaneous and lives for the moment. Often, he will use his creativity to woo her, such as with a song he has written about her or a painting he has made for her.
Why he is so irresistible: Every woman wants to feel unique and special. There is no better way to make her feel this way than to use her as your muse or your source of inspiration. She is intrigued by the artistic guy's creative mind and especially by the way he incorporates her into his art.

(hmmm..pas jaman junior high or senior high sih kayanya seneng banget deh nemu cowo begini, dikasih CD lagu yang apabila huruf depannya dirangkai, gw mendapat message: yessica yohanes I love (tapi pake gambar hati doang) u, atau dikasih gambar hasil karya sendiri yang kemudian gambarnya gw kasih ke temen sebangku gw karena dia lebih suka hahahaha (apa buat ngebribe dia buat kasih contekan ulangan MaT yang bangun ruang, sumpah dah GUOBLOG abis gw kalo urusan bangun ruang..Namun kalo sekarang, kayanya ogah dah..geli abis..apalagi kalau ternyata hasil karyanya jelek abis alias itu cowo ga talented lebih parah lagi kalau karyanya ga orisinil alias STANDARD.)

4. The Foreign Guy

He comes from a faraway exotic country; he might have a cute accent or a unique way of seeing the world. His social customs and everyday behavior can be a little quirky, but he always manages to come off as uniquely charming. Note that you don't have to actually be foreign to fit into this category. If you are well-traveled or speak many languages, you might be able to pull off the charm as well as any sweet-talking foreigner.
Why he is so irresistible: Charisma, charisma and charisma. There's not much more I can say about this one; it's just that mysterious je ne sais quoi that is so alluring. Women often choose this kind of guy if they are curious about the world, but most of the appeal comes down to a fascination with dating someone from another culture.
(mungkin gw harus wawancara orang yang berpengalaman, alias yang jatuh cinta sama this type of guy..ntar cari dulu orang yang mau gw wawancara ya..atau dari kalian ada yang bersedia alias sukarela dan senang setengah mati buat jadi volunteer nara sumber di blog gw? email me or leave a comment). As for myself, gw ga pernah suka apalagi fall in love sama this type of guy, gw sih lebih sering mengagumi kegantengan dan kesempurnaan bone structure mereka..tapi pas mereka udah open their mouth, biasanya gw langsung males..why? 1. mereka tidak se-smart yang gw pikir. 2. Gw sering sekali menemukan versi rasisnya (tapi di TO sih ga..cuman pas di Indo, bule-bulenya kebanyakan rasis, bete kali dipekerjakan Asian people.)

5. The Free Spirit Guy (aka the Bad Boy)

The free spirit guy goes where the wind takes him -- and the wind usually takes him on some kind of wacky adventure. He might ride a motorcycle, or he might skip work to take her on a last-minute road, but this guy doesn't worry too much about the consequences; he just sees where his own devices take him.
Why he is so irresistible: Every woman wants a bit of a rebel (within reason, of course). She loves his carefree attitude and hopes that it will rub off on her too. The bad boy spirit adds an element of youthfulness to the relationship and she loves to try taming him -- although she knows she'll never actually succeed.
(True true very true..Well, what should I say? This is my favorite type of guy..I can't resist this type of guy, always constantly draw to one and as a matter of fact, I even marry one..And I never try to tame him anymore. WHY? 1. Useless.. 2. Cape Hati (coba dinyanyiin pake nadanya lagu Mulan Jameela yang Cinta Maati, lengkap pake teriakannya ya..) Jadi, daripada gw mati muda karena stress mikirin orang yang kayanya aja ga sadar gw pikirin, mending biarkan saja dia berkreasi dan gw ikut menikmati angin segar yang dia bawa setiap hari. Hasilnya? FOREVER YOUNG.)

6. The Intelligent/Witty Guy

He instigates conversations that are intellectually stimulating and listens to what she has to say in response. He makes her laugh with his clever sense of humor and has an uncanny ability to make politics interesting. He can shoot the breeze with her for hours and it will never get boring.
Why he is so irresistible: As time goes on, your hairline may recede and your buff body may soften, but if you can keep her interested, you've won half the battle. An intellectual connection is a big part of what sustains a relationship and if you can show her that you've got that, she'll be hooked pretty quickly.

(I am fully agreed..Istilahnya mah, walau punya fisik sesempurna Om Brad Pitt, namun dikaruniai otak cetek, nangis aja kalau pengen dapet cewe yang perfect. (ciehhhh..ngerhyme ya? cuco yey..) Ini memang paling penting buat gw dan mungkin cewe pada umumnya. Karena kita kan susah senang, tertawa menangis, semua pasti bakal diceritain. Nah kalau tandemnya aja ga ngerti, makin frustasilah kita. Udah bete, orang yang mau diajak curhat kaga nyambung. Depresi judulnya. Intelligent sendiri ga berarti literally pintar menurut gw, tapi lebih ke smart alias nyambung gitu..radarnya sama. Maka dari itu ga aneh kalo ada orang bule berpepatah: You often see a smart men ended up with dumb women (gimana nih men penjelasannya? simply karena body no 1 baru otak? apa karena buat kalian broke up with the dumb one lebih gampang dari the smart one *pas nulis ini gw sambil punya big grin in my face..jadi inget one of my friends*) but you rarely whereas never see a smart women ended up with dumb men.)

7. The Considerate Guy

He holds open her car door and pulls out her chair. He foots the bill for dinner and makes sure to offer her dessert. He always asks her out with reasonable notice and picks her up at her door. He is generally sensitive to how she is feeling and when she is ready to go home.
Why he is so irresistible: Surprised? You probably think that nice, considerate guys never get the woman, but consider this: Once a woman has gone through her share of the bad guy, the rude guy and the not-calling-her-back guy, she will likely reevaluate her priorities. It takes a bit of maturity on her part to realize this, but eventually most girls come around and realize that they want a guy who treat them well in the long run.

(Hmmm..buat gw (for now ya..) Ini a lil bit tricky..alias..membuat pacar or mungkin suami terlihat tak berbeda dengan pembantu, supir, pelayan resto, and door man. AHAHAHHAHAHAHA.)

Lanjut...
Research tentang pria ini kemudian membawa gw ke tahap selanjutnya, yakni tahap 9 macam kesalahan yang biasa dilakukan cowo sehingga berakhir pada REJECTION (ini dari kacamata pria ya..bukan gw yang asal memberi petuah):

MISTAKE #1: Being
Too Much Of A Nice Guy

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"… but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple…
Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT… but GET OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

MISTAKE #2: Trying To
"Convince Her To Like You"

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like… but she's just not interested?
Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you… YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".
Think about it.
If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her
For Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".

Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them… EVER.
Don't get me wrong here.
You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her…

MISTAKE #4: Trying To Buy Her
Affection With Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.
Well guess what?
It's only NATURAL when this happens…
That's right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear message:
"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

MISTAKE #5: Sharing
How You Feel Too Early In
The Relationship With Her

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME.
An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translates into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast… and can't control themselves.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way…

MISTAKE #6: Not Getting How
Attraction Works For Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.

You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men… and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how…

MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It
Takes Money And Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started… because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money… or guys who are a certain height… or guys who are a certain age.

And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet…
And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly,you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: Giving Away
All Of Your Power To Women

Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.

Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea…
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over… Women aren't attracted to Wussies!

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women

Now I'm going to blow your mind…

A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating…
Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical… everything.
If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up… and LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it.


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