All The Single Ladies, Put Your Hands Up (wait..not so fast, read this first!)

Well, I won't say that I am an expert in relationship, but I think I have seen and felt enough to share my thoughts here. Even though everybody says that I am still in my so called honeymoon phase marriage or newlywed phase, I don't feel like that at all. Since January 2, which is our wedding date, me and Mas Yoyo have gone through lots of things, some good, some bad, some sweet, some bitter.

Shall we begin the lecture?
1. If you think you can change somebody or wait for them to change for you, well, may I suggest you to CUT OUT THAT CRAP from your head or keep wishing. People can't change unless they want to. If they don't want to, then ask yourself, are you ready or love him enough to be willing to live with the negative side (always remember, he also has positive sides) for the rest of your life? So, if point 1 is the reason you want to get married, do not ever get hitched.
2. People changed. (I believe you all know what I am talking about.) Hi all bride to be, just pray to your god that your husband will change into a better one and not vice versa.
3. Happy ending is merely Hollywood bullshit. Well, I won't say that happy ending doesn't exist, but the fact is, It is not. So, never see the wedding as the end of the journey, it is the start of everything. The talk, the tears, the laugh, the falter. Everything will be sweeter and bitter after the W day. But as long as you have each others back, then you're going to be fine. Just held hands, have a glass of champagne and smile.
4. The argument is the most torturing and hurtful part. Just don't let it surpassed the love you had. You may say you do not care, but you can not deny the feeling that you care. You may pretend to be careless, but you can not fool the heart. So talk it out, let it out. Say it. Do not keep it to yourself. Because that's what marriage is. Share it. And if your spouse is not wise enough to listen to you, if they make things harder than it already has, do not feel helpless. You have to be strong for yourself. Think clearly, take a deep breath, make a decision. You want to: A. cry and pity yourself or B. move on, leave everything behind.
5. FOCUS, know what you want and do not let any bitch come between you two.

PS: If money and wealth is your motive to be married, you better find some sugar daddy.

Anyway..being single is fun. Enjoy it, cherish it, embrace it while you can. Being married is awesome, if you find the perfect match. Just take your time..take a minute and let it ride..


Everybody needs somebody to love,
HW in L